southcarolinaboy replied to your post: Why is “cisplanation” so bad? Sometimes cis people feel the need to explain something to another because a trans* person isn’t around. I know that things were wrong with that post but I don’t know why it matters whether cis people explain trans* issues to others if they do it well…
That’s the key is that they do it well. Unlike that cartoon going around where a cis person decides what sex people are based on their bodies.
That really isn’t what they were doing. In fact, quite the opposite. Sure, there are more genders out there besides “female” and “male,” but per that post, the Cis person in question was simply using “female” and “male” as an example, based on the fact that most trans* people are dealing with just female and male issues. That being said, they did a wonderful job explaining the difference between “sex” and “gender” and how just because someone either has a vagina or wears dresses doesn’t mean that they aren’t male. For a Cis person, I thought they did a marvelous job with the explanation, and they should be encouraged to further their education on Trans* topics and issues, instead of being pushed away and ignorant to such matters. After all, isn’t that what we want? We want Cis people to learn about us and not be ignorant. Therefore, instead of bashing a person’s attempt at knowledge and alliance, we should tell them in a calm, gentle, polite manner what it is they got wrong and why and how they can improve in the future, and then we should thank them for thinking of us and wanting/trying to help us. Bashing Cis people when they mess up on accident is the perfect way to push them away and make them hate us and let hate crimes continue. You can’t fight hate with hate because that’s hypocritical and doesn’t get our point on love across at all.